Relationships

As a normal male, it's at this age where we start looking for a mate. This post is not about my expectations of a mate but it is going to be a critical discussion on my observations on relationships and my thinking of it.

Over the past 2 years or so, I have been observing boy-girl relationships. Young couples in public transport, in school, in church, outside and etc. They all come in different patterns and different types. But one thing I know for certain, these relationships are secular in nature. It's all driven by feelings and emotions of love. Not that I'm criticizing them but that's my feel to it.

To me, an ideal BGR should be built on the love and respect for each other. It's going to be as solemn as a marriage cos the exact end of each relationship must be a marriage, hence no playing around with feelings. Having said this, I have to state that I am not a strong proponent of love at first sight. What I'm trying to bring across is that before we fall head over heels into any relationship, we have to think rationally, assess the whole situation. The quote "Love is beyond reason" doesn't have a place in my dictionary. On the contrary,  it is because love is beyond reason hence we have to understand our own reasons of embarking into a relationship.

The whole process of courtship should have a focus and theme. Not just dates with the guy trying to impress the girl but each date must have an objective or at least a focal point. A date is not lovey-dovey, all love talk, showing love for each other and nothing. Yes, they are part of a date but do consider the date as a component in the larger scheme of the relationship. A date should be an occasion where you use to get to know each other better, more. I don't mean physical, but spiritual, mental and emotional. The reason why divorce rates are rising is because none of these groundwork is being done in the courtship phase. Courtship is more than dinner dates and movie outings, serious conversations of each other should be the topic of the dinner table.

I do not claim to be an expert in relationships. Reason being, I have not been in one yet. But it is the precisely the reason why I'm writing this. A relationship is a serious matter concerning two parties, any failed attempt would mean emotional scarring for either one or both parties. I don't want to hurt people more than people hurt me, neither do I want to live with regrets, I hope you too don't want to live with regrets ya?

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